It’s Not Ok

February 10, 2017

Today’s post is totally different from normal L&L content. The following things have been weighing heavily on my mind and I’m much better at writing than I am talking so I’m using this blog as my voice and my way to be heard.


It’s not ok to think because you are famous or have money that you can grab a woman. These comments were brushed off as “locker room” talk and while I don’t know what goes on in a locker room, I do know that your words and actions have consequences. You can’t say what you want, when and where you want, without facing repercussions. Technically, you can yell “FIRE!” in a crowded theater, but you can best believe there are going to be some serious consequences. To all the men who brushed it off, how would you feel if your daughter came home and told you someone said that about her, or worse, actually did it? I’m willing to bet you wouldn’t just brush it off and keep on.

It’s not ok to look down on women who chose to march. For those who didn’t understand the women marching and said, “what rights do men have that we don’t?” It’s not about they can do this and so can we. It’s about equality. It’s about equal pay for equal work. It’s about men in Washington not dictating what we can and cannot do with our bodies. I personally don’t think a senator from Alaska knows me well enough to make decisions on my behalf. You know that day you went to the polls in November and voted? You know how you got that right? Because women marched. Google suffrage, it was quite the movement. Vice President Pence made a statement that more less said he was disappointed in men who “let” their wives, daughters, etc. march. Umm hold up. No one, man or woman, “lets” me do anything. I do what I want, when I want, how I want. Maybe that means I’ll be single forever but so be it. The only person I answer to is the Lord.

It’s not ok to judge a group on the actions of a few. Facebook is such an enjoyable place this days. I saw a status that basically deemed all liberals as bad people. HOLD THE PHONE. I’m a liberal and I don’t think all conservatives are bad. I don’t think you can label any one group as being bad. This travel ban is causing and pain and heartache for so many innocent.

It’s not ok to assume that pro-choice means pro-abortion because they are certainly not the same thing. Pro-choice means just that, I’m for you making your own choice. People choose to and choose not to have abortions every day and the world keeps on turning. It’s not my place to tell a scared teenage girl who was raped in North Dakota what to with her body and her life. I think of all the news stories you read and hear of babies who born then left for dead. I remember seeing on the news once that a baby was found in a trash bag in a dumpster. That baby suffered and suffocated till it died. That’s heartbreaking. If that mother had chosen another option at 8 weeks (just throwing out a time), that baby would have been spared hours of suffering. However, I do not think late term abortions should be allowed. One of my best friends in life was adopted and I thank God every day that her birth mother chose life, but it was just that, her choice.

It’s not ok to judge other based on race, gender, sexual orientation, nationality, etc. It’s not our job to judge others. Now I’m not saying I’m perfect and haven’t done it. There have been numerous occurrences where I’ve thought to myself, “what on earth is that person wearing? did they get dressed in the dark?” If you’re a man who loves another man and wants to marry him, be my guest. Whatever makes you happy. God is the ultimate judge. I’ll have to answer for my sins at the Pearly Gate just like any other person. Black, white, purple, gay, straight, Syrian, man, woman, etc. we are all sinners. We aren’t perfect.

It’s not ok to say you’re a Christian and then not act like one. I personally have not read the entire Bible cover to cover straight through, but I’ve studied a good portion of it. You don’t get to pick and choose what the Bible says. It’s already written and has been that way for sometime. You don’t get to go to church on Sunday and then act like a heathen MondaySaturday. I am a Christian. I am a sinner saved by grace. I fully believe that God loves us all. ALL. Every. Single. Person. Gay, straight, transgender, black, white, green, Iranian, whatever. Whether they choose to love him back is a different story. Just because some sins may be worse than other, i.e. murder is worse than telling a white lie, at the end of they day they’re both sins. I don’t get people who think God only loves a certain population. He loves us all, even those who have wronged him. When I try to think about the scope of God’s love, my brain hurts, because I can’t even think on a scale that large. He died to know me. Me. Hannah Dawson from LaGrange, North Carolina. I’m nothing special. I’m not going to cure cancer, solve world hunger, or figure out the key to world peace, but He thinks I’m good enough to die for. Literally. To Him, I am special. I am loved. I am the best Hannah Dawson there ever was. Doesn’t that just blow your mind? I don’t go to church every Sunday, matter of fact, I can’t even tell you the last time I went to church. I know I need to and part of being a Christian is spending time worshiping with others. I will tell you this though, I do my best to be my best every single day. I try to live and act in a way that would be pleasing to God. I’m not perfect. I cuss way too much. I have the patience of gnat. I feel like I’ve used up my daily grace allotment for the day by 10 am, but He loves and forgives me even still. I pray every night for forgiveness and I thank God every night for all the blessings, people, and things in my life.

It’s not ok to be ungrateful. The world owes you nothing. The government owes you nothing. You want something, work for it. Plain and simple. We all have bad days. Days that start bad and end bad. You woke up late, had to take a cold shower, spilled your coffee, your boss yelled at you, your client/customer made you mad, and get home to find a pipe burst and your house is flooded. Now that is a sucky day, a day that would make a 3 day cruise to Hell seem like a vacation. However, think of the people that would love to have those problems. There are people that would love to take a cold shower and have a pipe burst in their home because it meant they had home. People who love to be yelled at by their boss because they had a job and could provide for their family. Someone always has it worse than you, even on your worst days. Take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Go to bed grateful for your blessings and grateful for a chance to try again tomorrow.


If you read all this, bless you. If you don’t agree with me that’s fine too. We don’t have to agree, but we do have to be kind and respect each other. At the end of the day, a little kindness and respect goes a long way. Be kind. Be respectful. Be accepting. Be forgiving. Love others. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Hold onto your beliefs, but look at things from another person’s different perspective. We can all learn from each other. The problems our country and world are facing can’t be solved over night, but we can all do our own little part.

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  • ayrgalaxy February 10, 2017 at 7:13 am

    Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. Many applause for you! Lol. I definitely agree on pretty much every single point you’ve noted. The country is divided and people are throwing insults left and right. To be honest, sometimes I’m scared that some guy is gonna come grab me or that I’m gonna get told to “go back where I came from” despite the fact that I was born here. So much hate in this world it gives me anxiety but I do my best everyday to not be a piece of shit to others lol. I mean that in every sense of the word because some people are plain idiots and just can’t be helped. I try to make it a thing to always be grateful because I know people have it much worse than me. First world problems aren’t nothing compared to the other side of the world. I’m not religious, but may the higher power keep on blessing you Hannah!

    • loubsandlips February 11, 2017 at 12:17 am

      Thank you! I was scared to post it, but I decided I was given a voice for a reason so I need to use it. It’s such a shame that you have to feel that way. If every person would try harder not to be a piece of shit the world would be a better place. You hit the nail on the head there! Again, thank you for your kind words and your friendship. They mean more than you know!

      • ayrgalaxy February 11, 2017 at 4:15 am

        Never be afraid! Not everyone will agree but you’ll always be glad you spoke your mind! 😊
        I’m glad to be your friend too!

        • loubsandlips February 12, 2017 at 1:56 am

          You are so right! Nothing gets accomplished if we are all too afraid to speak up.

  • Elle sees February 10, 2017 at 11:36 am

    Love you so much for this post!I agree with you! And I’m glad to be your friend.

    • loubsandlips February 11, 2017 at 12:14 am

      Thank you! I was so nervous to post it, but I’m glad I did. It’s easy for me to by shy and silent, but I want to use my voice. I am so thankful for your friendship and you have inspired me in so many ways.

  • Lily February 10, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    I can’t say that I agree with everything, but I do agree that kindness and love always win.
    xo, Lily
    Beauty With Lily

    • loubsandlips February 11, 2017 at 12:07 am

      And that’s perfectly fine!

  • Lindsay Latimer February 11, 2017 at 2:50 pm

    Proud of you for posting this! I know it’s not always easy, especially in these times, to share your opinion! But I think you nailed it, friend.

    • loubsandlips February 12, 2017 at 1:58 am

      Thank you! As I mentioned on twitter, you have inspired me to be better, do better, and stand up for myself. Forever grateful for that!

  • Ashley Sue February 12, 2017 at 11:56 pm

    This is a great post, Hannah! I find that I can get my thoughts out better too if I write them down sometimes. I totally agree with a lot of the things you talked about. And yes kindness and respect towards others are so important!

    • loubsandlips February 13, 2017 at 4:32 am

      Thank you! Writing is so therapeutic for me. When my anxiety is through the roof, I open a Word document and just type everything on my mind. It’s so helpful and I feel so much better afterward.

  • Amanda February 14, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    AMEN TO ALL OF THIS! Facebook is honestly the worst place you could spend your time these days. The things that some people think are OK to say absolutely blows my mind. I do my best to stay out of all of it altogether, but it’s definitely hard to avoid. This post is so on par, and I’m so with you, I truly believe the best thing we can do is be kinder & treat others the way we’d like to be treated. Loved this! XO

    • loubsandlips February 16, 2017 at 3:07 am

      Thank you! Facebook is the worst. Can we back to puppy and baby pics??